Mirroring with Heart

Intentional dialogue regulates reactivity through mirroring and allows for the experience of connection, which integrates the brain and integrates the self. This thought came out of some notes from a conference and it struck me as very true – and yet!

How often have I supported a couple in one mirroring another only to find that the insights and information flow don’t seem to bring about much long standing change. It seems that more is needed then just the practice of mirroring and I call it mirroring with heart. 

What do I mean? Mirroring with heart is an intense form of mirroring that slows down to give both the person being mirrored and the person mirroring the chance to consciously feel the effect of the words, emotion and energy in the space. Given that science tells us that it takes 7 times longer for words to hit the emotion centres than just understanding the meaning of the words themselves, then it makes a lot of sense to slow down the whole process.
In this way a remarkable amount of implicit memories can surface and be integrated into the hippocampus thus becoming explicit and lost parts of ourselves come back online. 

This is, I think, what transformation looks like!