Dan
Goleman is one of the few people I open up on Linked in as I find his thoughts
interesting, clear and to the point! He started his last piece with these
thoughts...
"Leaders today are beset by overwhelming demands – scheduled
every 15 minutes through the day, with an incoming barrage of messages via
phone, email, texts, and knocks on the door. Who has time to pay
full attention to the person you’re with?
And yet
it is in the moments of total attention that interpersonal chemistry occurs.
This is when what we say has the most impact, when we can come up with the most fruitful
ideas and collaborations,
when negotiations and brainstorms are most productive".
Now I know this on so many levels as a wife, mother, friend and
therapist and yet it is one of the hardest things to consistently do! When
somebody is expressing their own thoughts and I sense my own thoughts and
sensations getting activated, there comes that moment where I have a choice -
choose to stay present to them and relax into the here and now....or add my
piece onto their thoughts and speed the interaction up.
More and more I realise
that the fast pace of life that seems so ingrained into me, (and most of us, I
imagine!), robs me of the richness of truly visiting another and letting their world
impact mine opening up new fields of thoughts and knowing.
From the knowing to the doing...therein lies an art!
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