Weaving an Encounter

We all know on some level that when we sit with a client it is vital that we know how to be in our higher self - in our higher cortex where we can think, plan, integrate and observe relationally. We also know that at any given moment we can find ourselves triggered or drifting off in our attention and that the client picks this up on some level whether they speak about it or not.

Daniel Goleman talks about this:

'You have to put aside whatever else you're doing, and pay full attention to the person who’s with you. And that opens the way to rapport, where emotional flow is in tandem. When your physiology is in synchrony with someone else you feel connected, close and warm. You can read this human moment in terms of physiology – but you can also read it experientially, because during those moments of chemistry we feel good about being with the other person. And that person is feeling good about being with us.'

 

And that is exactly, I believe, the encounter where true transformation takes place!